You would be surprised how we as women restrict ourselves and diminish our accomplishments/talents/job raises so that our male counterpart can feel comfortable. You never hear GUYS hiding their successes from each other in the boardroom/workplace/with their friends!
Turn on the radio and you can hear Drake proclaiming “Started from the bottom, now we here” and turn on any music channel and you see most male artists flaunting their lavish lifestyle of cars, clothes, girls, money (Sorry, PIttbull, but it’s true).
So we have to get our #GirlBoss / #BossLady / #BossyPants /#LeanIn on NOW!!! Thank goodness for role models like Tina Fey, Sheryl Sandberg, Iman, Debra Chase, Sophia Amoruso, and so many more!
I once hid my raise from my live-in boyfriend for a full year before he found out. I was already the decision-maker in our relationship, and I didn’t want him to feel bad that he made less than I did.
It’s the kind of scenario we hear often: ambitious, hard-charging women purposely shaving off a couple digits when talking about money with their partners. Women who subtly downplay their accomplishments in order to protect their boyfriends’ egos. Those who play the damsel in distress to cater to some caveman-like need to save. Even toning down an online dating profile – deleting accolades and advanced degrees – to sound less “intimidating” to potential suitors.
“I would let him make the decisions even when I knew they weren’t the right ones,” one friend told me recently, of her (not coincidentally) now ex-husband.
“I never reveal where I got my PhD on a…
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I think people like to think that because someone is attractive, that person has no problems and can dance through life without any hardships. That is a lie.
Too often, our culture over-emphasizes external beauty which is commonly subjective over internal richness of character. Why be a CFO when you’re “pretty” enough to be a model or a Playboy centerfold? Why be a scientist when you’re “pretty” enough to be professional cheerleader or a reality TV show star?
We as women and as a culture need to challenge our girls see themselves as more than what they look like on the outside. But where do we start?
NYTimes: For American Women, Is It Enough to Lean In?
Laurean D. Robinson, MA